They clicked ‘like’ on my status, fabulous! And, the brain thought process begins branching out like river tributaries. They love me! I’m getting noticed! That means I’m in! This is my time! I’m accepted!
The same applies if they scrolled past your post. The brain thought process begins branching out and spiralling here and there. Oh my gosh, I didn’t get a ‘like’, what does that mean? Oh, gosh, they don’t like me anymore, they’re not following me, I’m doomed! Why did ‘X’ get so many likes? No one cares!
It’s about someone scrolling through their newsfeed and simply not bothering because they’re scrolling. They’re not interested in ‘liking’ or ‘commenting’ right at that point, because they’re just scanning, much like reading the front page of a newspaper and then saving what you want to delve into for another time. Or, more likely, it’s because of the time of day you put up your post as traffic is higher during specific times of the day. Research that, you’ll find interesting statistics on social media ‘on-screen’ traffic patterns.
In my opinion, ‘likes’ and ‘comments’ are a form of acknowledgement with your post and the empassioned people will give you the ‘wow’ or a ‘heart’ or a ‘mad’ while for others, not so much. And, that’s okay sometimes, but not all of the time, which leads me to the part about a two-way street, being friends and reaching out once in a while, with a click of something in reaction when you want to, but are too lazy to move the mouse over and click. What is so difficult about a simple click-response to a post if you have an inclination?
And, then of course, the reason of why we have to be friends with friends of friends? What purpose does that serve other than a little social pyramid? Who does this benefit? If your intent is to be a social media friend, then it wouldn’t hurt once in a while to drag that cursor over if you have even the smallest inclination and click for the sake of reciprocity and displaying gracious behavior.
Otherwise, why are you friends? To troll? To ‘restrict’? To ‘add to another list’? Why be friends then? Because, after a while, that’s when you see those posts pop up stating ‘if you read this post please share, it means you’re paying attention’ and people stating they’re ‘cleaning house’. They’re feeling dejected because they’re taking the time to put up a status the way we all do, and want some validation in form of a click.
Admit it, you’ve felt that way at one point or another. It’s a normal reaction.
Everyone wants some form of reciprocity and validation and I believe that’s why social media is so popular. So if you become friends and then ‘unfollow’ someone, then why are you friends in the first place? This is supposed to be social, right? Exclusionary behaviour is anti-social. Think of how in real-life you move on from people that just don’t stir your pot and gravitate to those that make your day. Same idea applies to your cyber-buddies. You put yourself out there afterall, what is your reason? To be noticed, to push your brand, to be friends? All of the above?
Unless, you’re trolling which is your curiosity coming forth, or you’re simply shy.
And about those folks who are posting fabulous vacation photos, newly aquired things photos, cozy family gathered around the Christmas table photos… yes, that’s just it, those are moments of pride, jubilation and accomplishment. Even the people who post photos of their pedi’s and their lunch…they’re proud and want to share.
Some think those are people who boast, and that might be the case, but I think they boast because for them at this point in time, life is going well and they want to celebrate that. A new house, lots of travel, weight loss, a new baby, a promotion, a celebration, and the list goes on and on. Instead of us feeling like they’re bragging, or lying, what’s wrong with lifting them in celebration and being happy for them? Heck, when it’s your time to celebrate on social media, you’ll want your friends to be happy for you, right?
Furthermore, happy posts, uplifting posts happen, for the most part, because people may be trying a more positive approach to rise above daily real-life challenges and not air dirty laundry. I believe they are attempting to redirect their feelings and attitude towards a more positive direction. That would be me. People who post that they’re looking forward to something in the near future are being hopeful. They’re happy. So they’re not bragging, they’re excited and we should all be happy for them, because one day that status will be us and we’ll want the same courtesy. Why is it automatically phoney if someone posts they’re going away on vacation, or have acquired something new, or posing with family in a holiday photo? Why is that any different that those folks who write about their past year highlights in those holiday letters attached to a photo? People just want a bit of validation. That’s all.
The same applies, however, to those folks who are venting, or expressing their sadness, because in their world at this point in time they are in pain and experiencing some form of suffering. They need our support, and encouragement more than ever…and one click, could mean the world of difference to them, that took a mere second out of your scroll.
So the next time you scroll past a status and you instinctively want to click, but can’t be bothered, just do it, click and be a good social media friend.
Remember how we all we were taught to play in Kindergarten?